As Americans we have experienced an unprecedented tragedy causing great grief and sorrow throughout our land. We have been devastated by the loss of life and the destruction of our way of life. In times of tragedy it is important to examine our response to these horrific events. Here are a few I trust you will add to the list as we respond with courage and determination to build a better America.

1. Do not repress your grief. There are numerous reasons we have all witnessed to cause us to cry and weep for those impacted. Healing always takes time and personal energy.

2. Don’t resign from life. God has blessed our land even when we failed to acknowledge Him for His provisions and blessings. Embrace life’s greatest treasures. They are all around you!

3. Don’t retreat into resentment. Resentment continues to compound a tragedy into something more damaging than the tragedy itself. Accept and acknowledge that some things will never change. Wishing and wanting for something different to happen when the evidence is clear is only fantasy and wishful thinking. Resentment only causes further stress and robs you of your joy and happiness.

4. Focus on what is left not what is lost. While it is critical to cry with those who cry and respond with help for those who are hurting, it’s imperative to ascertain what remains.

5. Focus on others rather than yourself. Find ways to help and give of yourself to those who need you, your support and encouragement. Too much attention on yourself can paralyze you and add to your depression and despair.

6.Focus on expanding your faith. Faith gives you the ability to move on in spite of your fear. Your biggest fears are weakened by your strongest faith!

7. Focus on the moments, memories, highlights and lessons of your life. Times to treasure are memories forever!

8. Focus on your creator and sustainer of life. Focus on what will never change. Jeremiah, in the book of Lamentations stated. “We are sick at our very hearts and can hardly see through our tears… But you , O Lord are king forever and will rule to the end of time”

Gene Bedley September 24, 2001

– Gene Bedley