Ten Most Important Invitations to Extend to Childr

1. Invite children to write GOALS. Written goals help children crystalize their thinking about the future.

2. Invite children to discuss moral dilemmas and the consequences for ethical shortcuts.

3. Invite children to go to lunch with you or go to school to have lunch with them so you can listen to them talk.

4. Invite children to help you, especially with opportunities that interest them (non-chore oriented). Adults need to let children know they need help from time to time.

5. Invite children to list the things they’re “GOOD AT.” Kids need to be proud of their accomplishments. They need reminders about their successful experiences. “GOOD AT” lists help children as they encounter problems in their life.

6. Invite children to select TV programs the same way you invite them to select items from a menu. Choosing carefully in advance avoids the habit of just watching anything that’s aired.

7. Invite children to learn how to express their needs. There is a tendency for kids to describe what they don’t have rather than what they need. Every human being has needs.

8. Invite children to be responsible by: (a) asking them to select chores, (b) budget money, (c) write agreements that are important to keep, (d) and evaluate their work. The world will be a better place if we develop responsible people.

9. Invite children to make suggestions on how you can improve yourself as an adult. Suggestion days are great for parents and kids. Give one to glow on (encouragement) and one to grow on (suggestion)

10. Invite children to look in a special place from time to time so they can see the special note that says “I love you.” Children that live with love and empathy can express it toward others.