NEEDS

I. Teens Need to be Love

II. Teens Need to be Heard

III. Teens Need Positive Messages

IV. Teens Need Positive Child Management Methods

V. Teens Need Autonomy

VI. Teens Need to Interact with Peers Verbally and

Physically (Socialize)

VII. Teens are Aware of and Influenced by Their Own Sexuality,

VIII. Teens Will Make Mistakes Under Peer Pressure

IX. Teens Need to Learn by Experience

X. Teens Need their Feelings Validated Accurate or Inaccurate.

XI. Teens Need to Form Daily Study Habits

TIPS for Each of the Needs

I. Write to them and look at them face to face and let your teen

know you love them. Don’t use the withholding of your love as a

method of discipline.

II. Be an attentive and respectful listener.

III. See your kids as responsible and validate their smallest

attempts.

IV. Always give your teen a chance to self-correct their behavior

V. Train your teen to be responsible. Give kids incremental choices

and provide guidance rather than criticism.

VI. Accept and channel social experiences. Create new opportunities

for positive social interaction.

VII. Teens are typically two years ahead of where their parents think

they are. Speak frankly and disclose a healthy attitude. They are

not as embarrassed as you are.

VIII. A logical consequence should happen. Refrain from passing

judgment.

IX. Allow kids to make unwise choices occasionally, and make sure

that they are aware of the consequences, and that they are willing to

live with those consequences as long as it is not life threatening.

X. Include feelings as a part of your ethics and guidelines for

expected behavior. XI. Create the opportunity to study. Arrange a

regular study period. A quiet time, with fixed starting and ending

time, free from distractions.