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Anger Management Strategies

in Elementary Schools, Middle Schools, Secondary Schools / by Gene Bedley
March 7, 2013

Choose one of the ideas below and you’ll see better anger manager

skills…

1. Put angry, abusive words kids say in the Anger Bag (paper bag) and

have them wrinkle the bag every time they put a hurtful word inside. Kids can smooth out the Anger Bag with kind words. I would make a list of kind words that they need to practice. Develop a habit of burying the bag to communicate the words don’t belong on our island even though they may be used in other places. Put these words on an attitude umbrella similar to the one I share in my seminars.

2. Work with the entire class to generate a list of words that express

strong feelings that are acceptable and post them on a chart. Use a bean

bag to toss to the class . They have to state one of the ideas on the

chart before they catch the bean bag. Make this a daily game to

practice appropriate ways to express strong feelings.

3.Use a miniature “Winnie the Pooh” bean bag and brainstorm “Winnie

the Pooh, what would he do?” when faced with a similar problem they

encounter. I would recommend saying only 2 alternatives that Winnie would do to be

kind to all his friends in the Hundred Acre Woods. Play a game so when

you throw the bean bag to different members of the class they have to

cite one of the two options before they throw the bag back to you.

4.Let angry kids and the entire class know “Kids with high self esteem

don’t put other kids down.” So if you hear a person put somebody down

it’s a clue they are in trouble or don’t feel good about themsel

ves.

Reminder- the best time to teach and model alternatives to targeted

anger is not when a child is angry. Always better to postpone the

learning to another time. It’s equally important to teach the child to

target the anger downward not at others.

5. Teach kids with short fuses this saying “Hurt Kids Hurt Kids”. If the

child was of preschool age I would teach him this concept by telling a

story with animals about a kangaroo that always hurt other kangaroos and ask

what could the class do. I’d invite the entire class in on this lesson.

6.You can hold a child’s hand firmly and walk briskly around the room

and let him know those kind of words really make me angry. Then I would

say I walk fast so I will restrain myself from getting angry. I would

walk fast with him holding my hand. Kids really appreciate when you

stop not getting angry at them. It’s critical you do not personalize their anger even when it’s directed at you.

7. Bottom line is angry children need a lot of love. He’s really

hurting! The tendency with hurt angry kids is for us to try to solve the

problem by hurting and being angry back. Anger is like wet paint; it

rubs off on everyone.

8. If you hurt someone you have to heal someone with 2 compliments. I

wouldn’t force this but would want him to see that he’s capable of being

nice and reinforce his thoughtful acts and deeds. Teach kids the four

steps of remorse and other forgiving strategies when they do hurt

others.

9. Get a piece of sandpaper and a piece of velvet. Show him how words

can be abrupt and abrasive by rubbing the sandpaper on back of the child’s

hand. Then show how they can be smooth like velvet when they are kind and

compassionate. Be careful not to use the sandpaper too much as it might

cause a wound.

10 Say what you mean and mean what you say but don’ t be mean when you

say it! Teaching kids not only to use their words but also how to be

patient is an everyday function of classrooms and homes.

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