What Adults Can Do When Disrespect Occurs
1. Recognize the child most often has no role models for Respectful Approach / Response behaviors. Kids who demonstrate respect to their parentSecondary Schools have parents who value and model respect to their children.
Demonstrated Consideration and High Regard are the bedrock behaviors of respect.
2.State your belief in a respectful and compassionate manner, There is no place for disrespectful comments in this room / home and I will not listen or accept disrespectful language.Avoid personalizing the
Disrespect. Place a few posters around that state Appropriate Language is Spoken here. Develop a list with the class/child titled We Consider Others by… Develop another chart with students “Inappropriate Language insults our intelligence Here’s How!”
3.Invest in lessons on Respect. Present different scenarios where children select respectful Approach / Response behaviors and plan lessons around Respect. If we can anticipate the things that will happen in our day we are better able to deal with them when they happen. Avoid Tolerance a minimum level of Acceptance. I want kids to know we are going to do more than just tolerate each other. Respect carries more power!
4. Use one of the Respect Records in the Values in Action! Program ( A comprehensive Character Education Program for Schools.) to record daily respectful behavior. When a child demonstrates consideration and high regard for others chart his/her behavior.
5. Place a Rainbow of Respect Bulletin Board in your home / class and every time someone demonstrates respect have them write their name on a Golden Nugget ( yellow paper circles) and place in the pot at the end of the rainbow.(Word color combinations.Respect yourself-others-democratic-ideals-learning-environment.)
6. Develop Respect Reports that children can fill out on each other when they see others demonstrating respectfulness. These can lead to special acknowledgement and privileges.
7. Children can budget allowances into four jars with the following categories. 1.saving 2. giving 3. spending 4. Gifts for brothers, sisters, friends.
8. Make a chart with children that show what a Respectful Listener is doing when others are sharing their ideas.
Respectful Listeners
Fix their eyes on the speaker.
Move closer to the person.
Discipline themselves to focus on speakers ideas.
Nod their head to show they understand.
Lean forward.